Assertiveness issues

I was also raised to respect others and to “be kind” (whatever that meant). Deep within me, though, lurked a very dark animal with intense desires. It took me a very long time to be able to embrace th ...

Thu Nov 14, 2024 11:24 pm • 9 Replies • 442 Views

What is “the norm”?

I think at times, our fantasies and masturbation sessions are avenues that we use to accept our deeper selves. What if a person likes to degrade and humiliate his partner, enjoys intense rough sex, an ...

Wed Nov 13, 2024 4:55 pm • 26 Replies • 1190 Views

Question For Hairy Men

I am a bald headed guy with a goatee. I decided to start shaving my head years ago when my hairline went into retreat and I started developing a reverse mohawk. I am naturally hairy, and I absolutely ...

Tue Feb 20, 2024 4:42 pm • 19 Replies • 1797 Views

Do Subs Have A Martyr Complex?

Bishop,

The martyr role can resemble many things, if someone is not around someone very much they may not recognize it. It also is usually mixed up with other personality disorders.

You ar ...

Tue Feb 13, 2024 8:12 am • 25 Replies • 2076 Views

Do Subs Have A Martyr Complex?

I think having a "martyr complex" is different from doing something we said we would do that perhaps we didn't want to do at the time. Everyone wants to be valued, recognized, and appreciated for doin ...

Mon Feb 12, 2024 6:29 pm • 25 Replies • 2076 Views

How am I supposed to behave during sex? What do you like in a sub?

If anyone tells you what they want, it’s only what they want. It is imperative that you and your Dom have a talk and share your expectations, thoughts, and desires. There is no wrong way to be, except ...

Tue Aug 11, 2020 4:03 pm • 15 Replies • 6324 Views

The Dance, question to Doms (but anyone can answer)

From my perspective, I think the D/s aspect shouldn’t even come into play until after the two people have gotten to know each other. I want her to be herself and for me to be able to get to know her, ...

Mon Jul 20, 2020 3:28 am • 4 Replies • 2442 Views

How do you ask for help.

Asking for help can seem like a very scary thing, I think because it puts us in a place of vulnerability. Not just because of any potential backlash we could get, but also because of the honest respon ...

Sun Jul 12, 2020 7:07 am • 6 Replies • 2831 Views

What are some non-sexual traits or things that turn you guys on?

Self-reflection
Self-respect
Knowing her principles, boundaries, and standing up for her convictions
The ability to articulate what she believes and why
Good communicator
Intelligent

More coul ...

Fri Jul 10, 2020 3:47 am • 119 Replies • 31775 Views

Self Reflection

It sounds like a touch of “sub frenzy” with a large helping of insta doms to me. Let me explain...I have a huge problem with Doms being mentors and trainers for submissives who are not in relationship ...

Wed Jul 08, 2020 9:23 am • 4 Replies • 1499 Views