Do Subs Have A Martyr Complex?

Bishop,

The martyr role can resemble many things, if someone is not around someone very much they may not recognize it. It also is usually mixed up with other personality disorders.

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Tue Feb 13, 2024 8:12 am • 25 Replies • 4092 Views

Do Subs Have A Martyr Complex?

I think having a "martyr complex" is different from doing something we said we would do that perhaps we didn't want to do at the time. Everyone wants to be valued, recognized, and appreciated for doin ...

Mon Feb 12, 2024 6:29 pm • 25 Replies • 4092 Views

How am I supposed to behave during sex? What do you like in a sub?

If anyone tells you what they want, it’s only what they want. It is imperative that you and your Dom have a talk and share your expectations, thoughts, and desires. There is no wrong way to be, except ...

Tue Aug 11, 2020 4:03 pm • 15 Replies • 7689 Views

The Dance, question to Doms (but anyone can answer)

From my perspective, I think the D/s aspect shouldn’t even come into play until after the two people have gotten to know each other. I want her to be herself and for me to be able to get to know her, ...

Mon Jul 20, 2020 3:28 am • 4 Replies • 3417 Views

How do you ask for help.

Asking for help can seem like a very scary thing, I think because it puts us in a place of vulnerability. Not just because of any potential backlash we could get, but also because of the honest respon ...

Sun Jul 12, 2020 7:07 am • 6 Replies • 3413 Views

What are some non-sexual traits or things that turn you guys on?

Self-reflection
Self-respect
Knowing her principles, boundaries, and standing up for her convictions
The ability to articulate what she believes and why
Good communicator
Intelligent

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Fri Jul 10, 2020 3:47 am • 119 Replies • 40928 Views

Self Reflection

It sounds like a touch of “sub frenzy” with a large helping of insta doms to me. Let me explain...I have a huge problem with Doms being mentors and trainers for submissives who are not in relationship ...

Wed Jul 08, 2020 9:23 am • 4 Replies • 1862 Views

Apologies

I would agree with IowaDom. I would also add that someone who does apologize is taking the time to acknowledge the offense done to the other person. I would like to think somewhere in there is the off ...

Mon Jul 06, 2020 6:26 pm • 30 Replies • 10771 Views

Hair or Bare?

I like bare. I can be pretty hairy all over and keep myself trimmed. I feel gross, like I don’t care about my appearance when I’m a short, bald, Wookiee walking around. So, I love it when a woman shav ...

Thu Jun 18, 2020 5:13 pm • 137 Replies • 52311 Views

Mentoring's Importance and Approaching a Potential Mentor

I would caution you in finding a mentor. Take your time. In my opinion a mentor is just a guide to answer questions, he is not your Dom and should never cross the boundaries. In fact, I’m against a ma ...

Sat Jun 13, 2020 4:33 am • 7 Replies • 4525 Views