The lies can never be wiped away completely...

The simple fact of the matter is there consequences for lying, one cannot unring the bell no matter how sincere one's apology. This is why youbshould avoids lying. It is very difficult to build a repu ...

Thu May 20, 2021 4:02 am • 17 Replies • 3603 Views

For me it's about dominance and sadism

As a dom I enjoy it on two levels: one, as a dominant side and two, as more of as my sadist side. I also need a partner who enjoys this as well, I've had partners who 'grin and bared it' for me and I' ...

Tue May 18, 2021 1:35 pm • 10 Replies • 4730 Views

It takes time and requires trust that needs to be earned

Sorry to hear that your first experience with this lifestyle turned out so badly for you but I do admire your courage in acknowledging your needs and desires. It would have been very easy for you to r ...

Tue May 18, 2021 12:39 pm • 42 Replies • 16147 Views

Your partner should want to know this

I told him from the start that humiliation is a hard limit. He said no problem, because he's not into that.

We just don't agree on what that means.

A mild example is crawling on the floor.
He ...

Thu Apr 22, 2021 2:11 pm • 18 Replies • 5703 Views

Trust is the key

My experience has been submissive are looking for two things: safety and leadership.

The former requires trust and the latter requires a Dom to take the time and effort to learn where their submiss ...

Thu Apr 22, 2021 1:52 pm • 16 Replies • 4791 Views

The key to being a good lover is...

Interesting topic.

The key to being a good lover whether its a BDSM relationship or just vanilla one is knowing what your partner is looking for and delivering it.

That requires they know what ...

Thu Apr 22, 2021 1:32 pm • 27 Replies • 6631 Views

Is Chivalry Dead?

Someone discussed this on Facebook that they got from a long reddit thread where people in the US were discussing nice versus caring.

As in east coast people are not nice but they are caring and t ...

Mon Apr 05, 2021 9:04 am • 57 Replies • 12580 Views

What do you think about Japanese kinky?

You are looking to leave Japan, correct?

If that is the case, the question is will foreign communities accept the fact that you are an outsider? If you are want to leave Japan, I would find out th ...

Mon Apr 05, 2021 8:38 am • 13 Replies • 4299 Views

Intelligence in s types

I am attracted to those who seek to learn and have interest outside of themselves. Do I need to find someone can understands and can explain what the term disestalishmentarism? No, but I'd like someon ...

Mon Apr 05, 2021 8:27 am • 70 Replies • 14931 Views

How do you meet someone in real life

I met someone here hanging out in chat, reading blogs,p & forums.

I am not especially attractive so I don't get many messages and generally I have to take the initiative. The con is is I doubt ...

Mon Apr 05, 2021 8:13 am • 23 Replies • 6294 Views