How should i start my first meeting with my sub?

In top/bottom situations, it's the same as D/s. The bottom can voice what they want but it's the top who decides if and how.

At a first meet, NO. Did OP say that she has asked this person into a dy ...

Mon Jan 22, 2024 12:36 am • 23 Replies • 3587 Views

Looking for advice

I only mean that our sexual relationship is great. We both are happy with that part of our time together.
Get us in a quiet room, or sitting over dinner and the conversation dwindles and becomes some ...

Sun Jan 21, 2024 2:19 am • 18 Replies • 2121 Views

Do Dom/mes get to have Praise fetish?

I do what I do, in life AND the Lifestyle because it is who I was hand groomed to be.. Just like My stories and or poetry, it's just something I do.. I do not need or even want recognition, just like ...

Sun Jan 21, 2024 2:13 am • 28 Replies • 2985 Views

Being told no thanks

Well since i seem to be the devil's advocate, there is another issue. That being if a sub (male) reads a Domme's profile and crafts a polite, considered introductory message...only to be met with sile ...

Sat Jan 13, 2024 11:17 pm • 20 Replies • 3435 Views

Surviving online with a new sub

@Lockland and @lynneanne

Everyone makes mistakes. We don't have a way to remove posts, that is The Cage's decision.
I'm sure everyone or most understand a communication error.

What are y'all ...

Thu Jan 11, 2024 6:26 am • 18 Replies • 1787 Views

Surviving online with a new sub

*popcorn tiiiiiiiiime*


But, in all seriousness, asking for advice is fine and great, but also... number one: people need to COMMUNICATE with those that they are in the dynamic with!!!


Wow. J ...

Thu Jan 11, 2024 6:18 am • 18 Replies • 1787 Views

Surviving online with a new sub

@Lynneanne,

From all appearances YOU outted yourself.
This is a conversation for y'all.

Thu Jan 11, 2024 4:20 am • 18 Replies • 1787 Views

Surviving online with a new sub

I would continue to work towards the goal of being together IRL in six months or less. That time will drag on mentally, but physically it will be a blink.
maintaining a positive attitude while dampe ...

Thu Jan 11, 2024 2:24 am • 18 Replies • 1787 Views

Re: Non Verbal Communication

It’s great to hear the both of you have decided to embark on an online dynamic. I have had a few experiences, and have found them challenging at times, which could say more about Me than the dynamic, ...

Thu Jan 11, 2024 2:21 am • 18 Replies • 1787 Views

Cock worship.

I do class this as being different from a blow job.
In a blow job my former sub wanted a tasty treat, or wanted him nice and wet for what came next.
In cock worship she wanted a tasty treat or him ...

Mon Jan 08, 2024 1:02 am • 13 Replies • 2362 Views