2 years ago. September 20, 2022 at 4:17 PM
Last night E messaged me to let me know he was on his way home. He lets me know this so that I know he'll be free to text and/or chat in a short while. I texted back "Just spent half an hour in the shower trying to shave my cunt without accidentally amputating a goddamn labia!" I added lol to make sure he knew I wasn't actually grumpy, but he knew I was going for the laugh on that one. I LOVE to make him laugh, it's part of my interactions with him every day, and he makes me laugh as well. Humor is definitely an important part of our relationship.
Before I started this relationship with E, I had shaved my pussy a total of 1 time back when I was like 22. Then after E and I had our first play session, he said one day - the 70's called and they want their bush back. OMG I about died, both laughing my ass off and kind of embarrassed. So I started shaving it, and I have to say I love it. I love how smooth and soft it feels when I play with his pussy. And I love how much easier it is to pee in the forest while I'm hiking too - gotta consider the practical as well lol.
E and I have grown even closer over the last week. In my last couple of posts I talked about how I've grown into my slave identity and how I love being owned by him, and also how I've brought E closer by making sure he knows about all my online activity, not just here.
He is training and mentoring me, and knows that eventually I will move on, but for now we are together. My submission to him deepens every day, and his mastery of me grows as well.
I'll share here some of the reasons why I feel that he truly deserves the title that I have given him.
E helps me in so many ways, and I appreciate all of them. He knows I'm working hard to build my duck pen before I go to Florida in a few weeks, but when I said I needed to hike last night, he agreed. He said that the hiking makes me happy, and though I'm losing weight doing the physical labor that needs to be done, the hiking and trail running really keep the weight loss going.
He know that the happy factor and the weight loss are both VERY important to me. He also reminds me when I get impatient that it's a marathon, not a sprint. It took me a while to gain the weight, it will take a while to lose it. He shows me all the time how he wants me to be the best person I can be for myself, not for him or anyone else. Lol he gets the benefit of my increased stamina and improving appearance but I'm doing it for me.
Over the last week we've had important, reasoned conversations about how I should handle communication with other Doms, how he would expect me to communicate with him if and when I decide to move on, and other things. For instance, we had a convo about feminism when I asked about it and why that's mentioned as a negative in so many Dom profiles. He walked me through his POV, I expressed mine, and we largely agree.
Not to get anyone stirred up but I'm not feeling like a feminist these days. I've worked for many years to do both the physical labor and the domestic chores while married to a lazy slug who didn't have a job or do much of anything else at home, and now I'm doing it all while on my own, so if I had the incredible LUXURY of only having to do the domestic chores on top of my full-time job, it would really be wonderful. I would probably cry a little. This girl is TIRED down to her bones some days.
In all of our conversations E has been reasonable, kind, respectful of my points of view, and he answers my questions in a way that is easy to understand. He has shown himself over and over again to be a wonderful Dom, friend, and mentor.
I also love that he is training me to be a good slave. Last night he gave me instructions for bringing myself to an orgasm, including what to visualize for inspiration, in this case kneeling for him as he flogs me. In this case he's helping me deepen the connection between orgasms and pain and submission - I already get turned on by flogging and by kneeling for him but training is good reinforcement.
E has NEVER demanded that I call him Sir, or Master, or Daddy, or anything but his name. Early on he helped me try on different sub roles, and use different titles for him to see how they felt. He cautioned me though not to decide on a title too soon, because then he would expect me to USE it in every interaction. And he wanted me to feel more certain about my identity, which of course took a while to figure out. He also wanted me to truly feel that he DESERVED the title that I chose for him.
At last here we are. Lol it's only been 3 months so at last is pushing it, but I feel like it's been much longer than that. Over the last several days I've been sprinkling "Master" into our text conversations, and last night E called me on it. He asked me if I felt that he had earned that title. Since we were texting at that point, I asked him to call so we could talk.
We talked, and I said that I really feel the Master title as I am happy to be his slave and I feel that he has earned that title. He pointed out that Sir is a lot easier to use in texting, and that he will expect me to use his title in every text. He said that if I feel that Master is appropriate, I could use that when we are together and I have my collar on. Then use sir for text and phone conversations. I said, "Okay, I'll sleep on that Sir."
I tried really hard to go back to sleep this morning when I woke up too early, but instead I thought about our relationship and his title and started writing this in my head.
I messaged him a while ago to say "good morning Sir," and let him know that I thought that Sir was good for text and phone, but that when I am with him and my collar is in place, I really do want to call him Master. I said again that I completely feel that he has earned the titles.
E then asked me if I agreed that I would use Sir in every single text message from here on out, and that if I did not, I would present myself and bend over for whatever punishment he deemed appropriate. I took a deep breath, and texted him my agreement. I immediately got that shivery feeling in the pit of my stomach that I love, that deeply submissive feeling.
He reminded me that a punishment spanking would NOT make me giggle, it would be a punishment and the mindset is completely different. I said yes, I understand - and that curious kitten will likely find out about that at some point lol. Curious kitten is our running joke with the punishment spankings. I have to say that I like that he is requiring me to use his title, after all I'm the one who put it out there and said that he has earned it.
I think it's the slave part of me that loves the rules and structure and understands the need to punish me if I don't follow the rules. I need to obey and I need to please him. Is it weird that if I do mess up, I want him to punish me even though I know I won't enjoy it?? It's more of a "rightness" thing I guess.
I have my responsibilities in the relationship but he has his as well.
I feel safe. I feel cared for. I feel seen and heard. I feel supported. I understand what is expected of me. E is fulfilling his responsibilities as my Master, and I am happy.
It's a good thing he then gave me a few days grace to get used to using his title - I've messed up on a few messages already lol. Going to take a bit of getting used to but my Master is worth it. WE are worth it.
Have a lovely Tuesday people. I sure am.