What Is A Common Misconception About You?

That I'm a ball breaker. Not submissive.

I can top, have topped, do top.

But it never fails to delight me that people don't understand how power exchange dynamics manifest.

Sun Nov 05, 2023 11:12 am • 35 Replies • 4105 Views

Am I wrong for setting an age limit?

That's just old men being upset over something so stupid.

Everyone is allowed to have an age limit of whatever they like and are comfortable with.

I doubt a 55 year old man will have much in c ...

Sat Nov 04, 2023 11:44 pm • 49 Replies • 6465 Views

Dominants of every flavor

I want to control her desire.
Her desire should be me.
If she desires me some, then I will have some control.
If she desires me a lot, then I will have a lot of control.

The thing about her desi ...

Sat Nov 04, 2023 9:19 am • 12 Replies • 1975 Views

Which aspects of Total control online thrills you?

The intensity one can create and enjoy online can be a beautiful thing.

Again, stuck record Sin, it's all about what two people can come up with.

Sat Nov 04, 2023 5:38 am • 13 Replies • 2173 Views

The Dom Construction Kit

A request for input from anyone, of any orientation and persuasion....

I have over many weeks been chatting to a gentleman not on thecage, who is looking to learn to be a dominant. He is engaging w ...

Fri Nov 03, 2023 2:58 am • 14 Replies • 2370 Views

"Why are Dommes so Rude?!"

I do not know how many times I have said the words: people first.

I don't get why a lot of people in the kink world miss that point, ad infinitum, ad nauseum.

Thu Nov 02, 2023 11:46 pm • 22 Replies • 2702 Views

Taking the lead or taking the lead

Great question!......

This is a great answer!!! I do wish more 'dominants' understood this.

Don't push me. Lead me. Set the agenda. Guide me. Show me how to do things. Control me. With a simple ...

Wed Nov 01, 2023 6:09 am • 5 Replies • 766 Views

True heart

In a recent approach, the expression 'true sub heart' was used.

This has me pondering. Do you believe in such a thing as a true sub or dom heart?

Or do you believe more in a good heart? And any ...

Tue Oct 31, 2023 11:50 pm • 5 Replies • 735 Views

Instant Ick ! What's is Yours ?

Cut and paste identikit message, from the same guy who messaged me a month ago, when he didn't have the courtesy to respond to my thoughtful response to his initial message and query.

On the back o ...

Tue Oct 31, 2023 11:36 pm • 60 Replies • 7392 Views

Is it needed to tell me that you're a nice guy?

For me, repeated comments and behaviours like that indicate someone who doesn't know how to interact in a socially appropriate way.

The lack of interpersonal communication skills is astonishing on ...

Sun Oct 29, 2023 10:12 pm • 40 Replies • 4773 Views