Red flag behavior : The Carrot

I understand what you're saying.

All subs earn their collar but there are Doms who have no intention of giving their sub a collar but will dangle the carrot to keep the sub committed.

Sure peopl ...

Wed Sep 17, 2025 9:17 am • 9 Replies • 4477 Views

Are you submissive or are you just lazy

I think a lot of what you described is just a very common kink amongst bottoms and submissives.

As a sub, why are you so eager to gatekeep the lifestyle based on your own standards? Why so quick t ...

Tue Apr 15, 2025 5:36 pm • 33 Replies • 12953 Views

Safety in This Space

The inbox can be quite intense. I think reaching out to the forum is a great start. Abusive behavior often occurs in isolation. It's a good that you are clearing up what is normal and what isn't.

W ...

Sun Feb 16, 2025 7:15 pm • 8 Replies • 1767 Views

Why do some seek a bottom to top

OMW! I am so glad this question is coming up because I thought I was alone until I had a conversation with my submissive friend a while back. I've been meaning to ask a similar question in the forum b ...

Thu Jan 30, 2025 4:12 pm • 9 Replies • 1476 Views

Physical attraction

The thought of physical attraction can be intimidating because we are taught to be shallow about it. Physical attraction is such a personal experience -what is attractive to one person is not necessar ...

Fri Jan 17, 2025 6:11 pm • 24 Replies • 3904 Views

Music with in

I love a lot of music that has been already mentioned here. When I think about what stirs my soul, the first thing that comes up is "desert blues" from North Africa, specifically a band called Tinariw ...

Wed Jan 15, 2025 12:30 pm • 10 Replies • 1603 Views

Loneliness

Having a fellow submissive friend helps a lot.

There was once a conversation in the forum about protectors and someone commented that subs can protect each other just as much as Doms. It made me t ...

Wed Jan 15, 2025 12:08 pm • 13 Replies • 3179 Views

What is Subspace, and Is It Normal to Feel Sad or Anxious in It?

I've only been around for less than a year and have little experience. However, I have experienced sadness when in the subspace. In my experience, I would try to communicate with my Dom about it or qu ...

Fri Dec 13, 2024 7:00 pm • 9 Replies • 1558 Views

Tips on setting personal boundaries?

I think do both taking a break from physical sex/dynamics and going to therapy is important or if you cannot access therapy, read up on ways to enforce boundaries and apply it in other areas of your l ...

Mon Dec 09, 2024 8:54 pm • 14 Replies • 2329 Views

being a sensitive submissive can be very hard

There's nothing wrong with caring unless it is a form of self-harm and you are ignoring your needs. Caring is natural, as long as you are looking after yourself. People also receive care in different ...

Sun Nov 24, 2024 7:03 am • 7 Replies • 1711 Views