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Training? Idk?

You need a mentor or a protector.

A Protector is someone, usually a Dominant, who you don't engage in play or sex with, but they are a mentor: you can ask them questions, and they help you vet pot ...

Fri Apr 03, 2026 7:45 am • 6 Replies • 785 Views

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That Berry Lover

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Generally Speaking

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Training? Idk?

Red flag behavior : The Carrot

I understand what you're saying.

All subs earn their collar but there are Doms who have no intention of giving their sub a collar but will dangle the carrot to keep the sub committed.

Sure peopl ...

Wed Sep 17, 2025 9:17 am • 9 Replies • 4926 Views

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That Berry Lover

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Absolute Beginners

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Red flag behavior : The Carrot

Are you submissive or are you just lazy

I think a lot of what you described is just a very common kink amongst bottoms and submissives.

As a sub, why are you so eager to gatekeep the lifestyle based on your own standards? Why so quick t ...

Tue Apr 15, 2025 5:36 pm • 33 Replies • 14094 Views

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That Berry Lover

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Lifestyle BDSM

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Are you submissive or are you just lazy

Safety in This Space

The inbox can be quite intense. I think reaching out to the forum is a great start. Abusive behavior often occurs in isolation. It's a good that you are clearing up what is normal and what isn't.

W ...

Sun Feb 16, 2025 7:15 pm • 8 Replies • 2063 Views

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That Berry Lover

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Absolute Beginners

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Safety in This Space

Why do some seek a bottom to top

OMW! I am so glad this question is coming up because I thought I was alone until I had a conversation with my submissive friend a while back. I've been meaning to ask a similar question in the forum b ...

Thu Jan 30, 2025 4:12 pm • 9 Replies • 1796 Views

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That Berry Lover

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Generally Speaking

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Why do some seek a bottom to top

Physical attraction

The thought of physical attraction can be intimidating because we are taught to be shallow about it. Physical attraction is such a personal experience -what is attractive to one person is not necessar ...

Fri Jan 17, 2025 6:11 pm • 24 Replies • 4901 Views

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That Berry Lover

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Generally Speaking

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Physical attraction

Music with in

I love a lot of music that has been already mentioned here. When I think about what stirs my soul, the first thing that comes up is "desert blues" from North Africa, specifically a band called Tinariw ...

Wed Jan 15, 2025 12:30 pm • 10 Replies • 2110 Views

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That Berry Lover

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Just for Fun

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Music with in

Loneliness

Having a fellow submissive friend helps a lot.

There was once a conversation in the forum about protectors and someone commented that subs can protect each other just as much as Doms. It made me t ...

Wed Jan 15, 2025 12:08 pm • 13 Replies • 3793 Views

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That Berry Lover

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Lifestyle BDSM

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Loneliness

What is Subspace, and Is It Normal to Feel Sad or Anxious in It?

I've only been around for less than a year and have little experience. However, I have experienced sadness when in the subspace. In my experience, I would try to communicate with my Dom about it or qu ...

Fri Dec 13, 2024 7:00 pm • 9 Replies • 1958 Views

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That Berry Lover

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Lifestyle BDSM

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What is Subspace, and Is It Normal to Feel Sad or Anxious in It?

Tips on setting personal boundaries?

I think do both taking a break from physical sex/dynamics and going to therapy is important or if you cannot access therapy, read up on ways to enforce boundaries and apply it in other areas of your l ...

Mon Dec 09, 2024 8:54 pm • 14 Replies • 2842 Views

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That Berry Lover

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Lifestyle BDSM

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Tips on setting personal boundaries?