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Question for the D types

I think is important to distinguish between two people who are still chatting and spending time getting to know each other (who also happen to be D/s) and a Dom and sub who consider themselves to be i ...

Mon Oct 11, 2021 5:57 am • 25 Replies • 12853 Views

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LongerJohnny

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Generally Speaking

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Question for the D types

842

Can we stop equating Brats to

Being a brat is not the same thing as a bitch - except when it is.
Being a tamer is not the same thing as being an abuser - except when it is.
Being A is not the same thing as being B - except when ...

Sun Oct 10, 2021 9:37 pm • 20 Replies • 7211 Views

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LongerJohnny

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Generally Speaking

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Can we stop equating Brats to

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He doesn't want me to say "Sir"

Some things to consider:

1. As with all relationship-related things, you must talk about everything. For instance, he may not feel a need to hear or use honorifics and pet names, but unless he is d ...

Sun Oct 10, 2021 8:29 pm • 24 Replies • 10537 Views

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LongerJohnny

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Maledom

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He doesn't want me to say "Sir"

844

Name 3 of your favorite fetishes and 3 that you would like to try

Pick only 3???

All giving:

1. Nipple torture
2. Orgasm torture
3. Watersports
(4. All 3 at the same time)

1. Erotic hypnosis. I have been studying it for several months but I have yet to t ...

Sun Oct 10, 2021 7:26 pm • 35 Replies • 13833 Views

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LongerJohnny

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Just for Fun

Topic

Name 3 of your favorite fetishes and 3 that you would like to try

845

Blocking

I tell all new users that I meet, or anyone who asks, "the Block button is your friend. Use it."

Yes, it sucks to be blocked, especially if you have no idea why it happened, or if you have never e ...

Tue Jul 27, 2021 9:43 am • 72 Replies • 22781 Views

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LongerJohnny

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Generally Speaking

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Blocking

846

not so nice messages

You are not in the wrong, and it is not your fault, and it shouldn't happen.

All of the nonsense you describe is not "normal" with the ls, though sadly it is very common on bdsm websites. By no mea ...

Sun Mar 07, 2021 1:06 am • 19 Replies • 8206 Views

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LongerJohnny

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Generally Speaking

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not so nice messages

847

dealing with sub-drops

By asking for help you have done the best thing you can for the present.
That is not much help, but I'm wishing you all the best.

Sat Jan 23, 2021 9:02 am • 8 Replies • 2884 Views

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LongerJohnny

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Generally Speaking

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dealing with sub-drops

848

Should I ask for rules?

Speak up - before you find yourself in that situation.

The whole idea about how "topping from the bottom" is so taboo is horseshit - because there are established mechanisms to ensure that no dynam ...

Thu Jan 14, 2021 3:57 pm • 33 Replies • 13346 Views

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LongerJohnny

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Maledom

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Should I ask for rules?

849

Dominants - what do you get out of being a dominant?

Simple answer - hopefully the same thing she gets from being a sub.

Ideally, every dynamic is a symbiotic relationship. Even in missionary there must be a top and a bottom.
Every relationship is i ...

Mon Jan 11, 2021 10:58 am • 5 Replies • 2552 Views

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LongerJohnny

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Lifestyle BDSM

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Dominants - what do you get out of being a dominant?

850

Breaking a hard limit

I'm kinda torn with this one.

I am adamant about safewords and negotiated limits.

Part of me wants to be the guy who says "It's ok, it was an accident, lets move on but be more mindful of our ne ...

Tue Jan 05, 2021 9:12 am • 11 Replies • 9872 Views

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LongerJohnny

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Lesbian BDSM

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Breaking a hard limit