Potential site improvements?

It would be nice to have the option to be online, but appear as busy, or away if we choose. Sometimes I just want to read blogs, or forums but not have others know I'm here, for whatever reason. I don ...

Fri Mar 10, 2023 10:43 pm • 29 Replies • 4497 Views

Re: MIND SPACE

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- With such a busy 'attentiveness 2 vanilla' as you appear or admit to have,...
Q1: Is there a particular 'ritual' which 'centres' you and brings you into sub/slave 'space' ?? ( mind-frame / ...

Tue Mar 07, 2023 2:23 am • 40 Replies • 8653 Views

Live-In Slaves

It all depends on the dynamic mutually wanted by dominant/Master and their slave. 24/7 every aspect controlnisnusually referred to as micromanagement which is very time consuming and is usually only a ...

Mon Mar 06, 2023 11:59 pm • 32 Replies • 8944 Views

Live-In Slaves

Like all dynamics, it depends on the agreed upon parameters. In my past dynamic, I stayed at home and took care of the home stuff, including meals, cleaning and other domestic duties. He took care of ...

Wed Mar 01, 2023 6:54 pm • 32 Replies • 8944 Views

Munch club

If you're nervous, reach out to the hosts and let them know. They may even meet you first to show you they don't bite (unless you ask them too). You're allowed to vet in this situation too, so just re ...

Fri Feb 24, 2023 11:05 pm • 22 Replies • 4452 Views

Screenshots publishing

A twitter account has done this and received mixed results. She posts all sorts of things, but mostly confessions and bad tweets and has been reported more times than she can count. Mostly for bullyi ...

Fri Feb 17, 2023 2:18 am • 37 Replies • 4561 Views

Long term relationship is too vanilla

Firstly, to say that BDSM practitioners are damaged people, is completely gaslighting behaviour, and 100% false.

It's fine to not be into it, but to assume that others are because they have issues ...

Wed Feb 15, 2023 8:30 pm • 15 Replies • 2570 Views

What is it that you (subs) desire?

Most are going to give you answers about specific things they want/need for their D types. I'm going to approach it from a different angle and answer what D/s provides to me. This means it isn't somet ...

Wed Feb 15, 2023 12:27 am • 40 Replies • 8653 Views

How to find the right DOM

Regardless of your side of the slash, vetting is a must. From what I've read, I would say you experienced a bit of sub frenzy - in which like many before you, you wanted to experience everything, asap ...

Tue Feb 14, 2023 11:48 pm • 42 Replies • 17970 Views

first time

Okay, I'm going to assume "normal" meant "vanilla".

Yes, People who engage in BDSM and live as a member of the lifestyle (in some fashion, but not necessarily 24/7) do live in a world of limits, co ...

Fri Feb 10, 2023 12:55 am • 8 Replies • 1262 Views