California
Smart dom male seeking sub female.
Hi there. I'm new to the scene, but old to being a dominant person. That is to say: I've never had a relationship labeled as d/s, but they've always ended up that way. And in groups, I tend to end up in charge. I've never aimed for that to happen.
Nevertheless, it always damned does. Personally, I wish to be surrounded by equals, whom are as beneficial to me as I am to them. That I could just blend in. But that doesn't seem to happen. Instead, people need their hands held, everything slowly explained, etc. Which I don't mind.
What I do mind, is that most people, become very uncomfortable when they start to realize that I'm smarter than they are. Most people, when very uncomfortable, act like animals.
Keep in mind, I always aim to benefit those around me, trying to improve their lives and mental health. Infact, I've literally volunteered over 2500 hours, helping families, animals, and the elderly. Improving the world. Those whom I love, I protect and lead.
But people whom don't know me, whom haven't watched me constantly improve their lives for years? All they see is someone they don't understand, doing things they don't understand, and gaining social influence. Most people equate confusion with helplessness, and that with pain. Thus, my being the source of their confusion, they equate me with pain.
Then I get to deal with these idiots behaving as idiots do: fucking up everything. But, they specifically aim their rampaging incompetence at me. This has been a constant theme throughout my adulthood. The secret curse of intelligence that none of us mention, because hearing it would upset those blessed idiots even more.
So, here I am, looking for a submissive partner. I hope a person - desiring to be submissive - can appreciate rather than merely fear my intellect. I hope they can – comfortably – see me as someone to learn from, rather than someone to be jealous of. Someone to envy and emulate rather than hate. I hope that, over time, I can turn them into my equal.
That gargantuan problem aside, keep in mind that I'm not a fucking god. I might understand more about people, the world, and life in general, than most people ever do. I might have so much self-understanding and control that zen masters would give me a respectful nod. I might stare down large, hard men with mere annoyance. But I'm only human.
I'm poor, I cannot be your sugardaddy – nor would I choose to be, had I the money. I'm a little fat and definitely outta shape. Don't have a big dick. I was depressed, pretty much the last 3 years – and still am a bit. I smoked cigarettes for 17 years. What else? Pffft. Nothing I'd label as serious, but you can grill me if you choose. My blog [link in profile] has nearly my entire life in it. I'll tell you the rest when I trust you.
Again, mental capacity aside, I'm actually very normal. Infact, aside from thinking awesome shit, I spend my freetime just dicking around. And I like it that way. I play video games, read, watch shows, listen to music, jerk off, cook, build shit, meditate. I don't plan to get involved with the world, except when I need to be.
If you and I got together, our time would be spent living a slow, private, comfortable life. Kinda boring, to people who think society has value. Me, I prefer keeping my mind in more productive places. And I'd love it if someone joined me.
As to the d/s side to our relationship, honestly I just want someone who appreciates having a partner who's stronger than them. I won't to be doing everything alone, you'll need to always be helping, but I've got no problem taking the lead. And I'd be happy to school you in the ways of being a badass – wouldn't be a good partner if I didn't work the bitch out of you.
If you want said schooling to include the d/s punishment and reward system, it wouldn't be remotely difficult. Sexually, if you want me to push you around, I'd also be more than capable of that. If you don't want that, I'm fine with that too. Oh, and I'm more than happy sharing control of our life together, but you need to earn the right to contribute through god damned good reasoning and planning. I do not allow stupid shit just to spare someone's feelings.
That's all I wanna think about this for now. I'm sure I'll edit this plenty in the future, if that's a possibility. Feel free to talk to me. Oh, right, and check my blog, which is linked in my profile. It's fucking massive, has video of me, etc.
October 21, 2022 at 2:42 AM