What do you know now...

That submission is given, not a given.

That submission is individual, not generic.

That D/s is two equals from opposite sides and not a question of inferiority/superiority.

Mon Jun 05, 2023 3:35 pm • 7 Replies • 1912 Views

Making the first move

I do what I do and if that appeals, I am open to approaches. I very rarely approach. As long as its not pushy, pick me, pick me, or insta I am happy to talk.

I think this saves a lot of embarrassm ...

Tue May 23, 2023 9:42 pm • 26 Replies • 7714 Views

Making the first move

Love this question, so important i think.

This is from the perspective of a total bottom gay male with some sub thrown in.

Online, i consider profiles as a move of sorts? Idk, maybe not. But a ...

Tue May 23, 2023 6:12 pm • 26 Replies • 7714 Views

Time wasters?

Wow, some really great discussion here, from many sides. i have some thoughts to throw into the mix.

i see part of the problem as (sort of) neutral... not anyones 'fault,' and a pretty much standa ...

Sun May 21, 2023 8:11 pm • 65 Replies • 14504 Views

Is addressing HER as Mistress Really Respectful ?

my thought...Ask her.

Your thoughts and opinions are valid, and half the equation. The other half is the other person. Different words have different effect on different people. i'm gay and if s ...

Tue May 16, 2023 10:12 am • 27 Replies • 9268 Views

How to honor the masculine

Yin and Yang of Balance both share have masculine and feminine energy celebrate the team work working together. The bond to the core.

i appreciate this answer and tend to think in the same directio ...

Sat May 13, 2023 5:27 pm • 34 Replies • 19291 Views

How to Have Hard BDSM Conversations

@ GloriaBrame, thank you for sharing your experience and expertise with us.

i love your focus and emphasis on communication. i think that we largely fail when it comes to establishing communicati ...

Mon May 08, 2023 8:56 pm • 9 Replies • 2958 Views

How best organize my first GB by myself?

Not sure the OP is around or has seen any of these responses, but i think it a cool topic worthy of discussion.

i have experience as a receiver (gay total bottom here).

Since you (the OP) are " ...

Thu May 04, 2023 6:24 pm • 10 Replies • 5001 Views

How to battle Insecurities during sex?

Wow, great discussion! i think there's some very thoughtful comments and insights.

To me, sex is about connection in one of the most intimate ways we can. Since the (my) goal is deep, intimate conn ...

Wed May 03, 2023 7:13 pm • 17 Replies • 4252 Views

Advice on being turned down by a Dominant.

Hi Tall Slender! where you been!?!? wb and great to see you! : )

Hi darlingdiana!
And thank you for the sweet "wb," it feels good to be welcome. Been spending time in the gay community, working ( ...

Tue Apr 25, 2023 9:51 pm • 33 Replies • 8996 Views